Friday, June 30, 2006

dresses take one

The first try-on session, or whatever you want to call it, went well. It was a sample sale, which meant the salon ladies were hands-off -- they told me to dive in, try on as many as I could in an hour, and no more than five at a time in the dressing room. There was one other woman there with her friend, she was trying to decide between two dresses for her October wedding. She asked me what I thought at one point, but I hadn't been judging (just given her a glance), so I couldn't say. It was a little awkward being there alone, I had to ask the other customers and the "consultant" to help me zip/button up once or twice, but other than that it was fun. Ginger's is owned by the designers of the couture line Ristarose, so I got to try on some one-of-a-kind dresses from their line. There was one... ohmigod... but way too expensive. One was nice and reasonably priced, and if I was closer to the date I might've considered it, but I've got so much time and I want to go shopping with Mom and Denise at least once, so I passed. But now I've got that under my belt, I'm feeling good about the whole experience -- I'm sure I'll find a dress that is beautiful, and I think I actually look pretty good in white.

Wednesday, June 28, 2006

timing of save-the-dates and invitations

James made a comment last night about giving our guests ten months notice for our wedding. I was wondering - when should we send out save-the-dates? I was thinking about combining it with a holiday card in December, which would give our guests 5+ months notice, though of course the word would probably be out less formally among family and friends. Then I saw this:


Timing is everything. Invitations for weddings and very formal events should be sent out six to eight weeks in advance. A “Save the Date Card” sent three to four months in advance is also appreciated for these events.


So I guess the holiday card idea would be plenty of notice, right?

setting the date?

What do you think, memorial day weekend? That'll give family from far-off more time for travel, sightseeing, etc. I know my parents already have some plans, sort of, but nothing that can't be delayed a bit...

Monday, June 26, 2006

appointment

oh, I should mention, my appointment is this Wednesday at 5 pm. I'm serious - if anyone wants to come and help me (or just lend moral support) I'd love it. I don't know why, but bridal salons kinda scare me. I guess so many reports of snootiness. I'm sure I'll be fine - I generally shop alone - but it might be fun...


Mom, when are you coming out to help me? I need you!

my favorite dress so far

time to start thinking about the dress, I guess

My sister is bugging me about the dress (see comments to previous posts). I've looked around online, but have yet to try on anything. That situation is soon to change -- I just made my first appointment, at Ginger's. Anybody been there? Heard anything? Want to come with? I'm a little scared...


My feelings so far about the dress, or "gown," is that I don't want to do the typical strapless ball gown. Anyone read that article in the chron? Well, they were reading my mind. I'm realizing that this is my typical reaction to things that are generally accepted -- I don't want to do what everyone else is doing, but I don't really end up that far from the norm. Example: I didn't get a Honda Civic because it was too popular -- instead I got a Nissan 200 SX, which really isn't that far off. If I was truly brave I would've gone for a '72 Chevy or something. But I try.

dance camp

this was the camp that was going on when James & I visited Saratoga Springs this weekend.

Sunday, June 25, 2006

we liked it... now what?

James and I seem to have found a place to be wed. We're both a little tentative about it, though -- as if we're not letting ourselves get excited quite yet, until we make sure that there aren't any mitigating circumstances or something. Let me tell you about our weekend.


We left after my statistics class Saturday morning. I BARTed back to Oakland and stopped at the west oakland farmer's market for some strawberries and raspberries. We finished packing the car and headed out around 1:30. The Richmond-San Rafael bridge had a really bad back-up, the worst either of us had ever seen. It was just the toll plaza, though, so once we were able to scoot into the FasTrak lane we were good. The rest of the drive was uneventful. We stopped at Taco Bell for lunch, then Lake Mendocino (at the turn-off from 101 in Ukiah) to pee. We passed Saratoga Springs road, but kept on going -- we'd visit there tomorrow.


In Upper Lake, the town closest to Saratoga Springs, we stopped at the store for firewood, charcoal (didn't really need both), some extra food and beer. We headed off into the Mendocino Nat'l forest, hoping to make it to a place called Lets Lake. We had no idea if the roads were decent -- the camping guide I had described getting to the lake via the other side, from I-5. Hmm. When we turned off the paved road onto a dirt road, I noticed a sign that said something about Bear Creek and ford and four-wheel drive. Hmm. Yes, we were in my little 2-door Nissan.


OK, all these details aren't really important, I should just get to the Saratoga Springs part, huh? Suffice it to say, we were able to ford the creek, but we stopped at Bear Creek campground, about 25 miles from Upper Lake, 8 of which was a dirt road. It was warm. There were bugs. But the fire was good and the stars were nice and it cooled off nicely (but not too cold) that night. We saw two rattlesnakes in the campground, which kinda freaked me out. But then we saw a frog in the creek, which cheered me up. Such a cute little frog.


The next morning we had brunch at the Blue Wing, mentioned in the article I linked to in the last post. The Talmage Hotel looks really nice, I think it will be the back-up hotel for guests who need more comfort/privacy. I think it's around $200 a night. Brunch was yummy, and the waiter was very nice.


Finally, the important part! When we pulled up to SS, there was a sign saying it was closed for a private event (events there are always private, though) and to call the office. I was a little worried about finding Judy, the manager, since we hadn't mentioned a time in our email correspondence, but we drove on in anyway. There was a huge group there, over 200 people. Many, many tents all over. Some people were packing up, but not a lot. Things were still in progress. We started wandering around, and asked someone if she knew where Judy was. She turned out to be Judy's sister, and Judy wasn't there yet. So we poked around, checking out the place. The group was a dance-related retreat, with classes in samba, bellydancing, west african dance, and a couple of drum circles going on. Pretty cool.


Basically, the place was great. Nice pool, with a patio structure nearby and nice plants around it. The Heart Lodge, where we'd have the big dinner, is beautiful, and not as big as it looks in the pix, so it'd be a nice, cozy place for the reception. We debated music in the Heart Lodge vs music on the lawn. We still don't know if we're going to get a band, but the idea of Creation, the reggae band from Ben & Em's wedding, is floating around. They were awesome, according to James, and everybody loves reggae. Everyone can dance to it. But we also started a list of dance songs, in case we decide to just do the iPod DJ thing ourselves (or maybe in btn sets?).


We poked our heads into a couple of rooms & cabins, even though there were still people in them. The larger cabins with bathrooms are nice - they have porches out front, a common room with kitchenette, and a bathroom. The "rustic" cabins are private, but they're basically like camping. A lot of the rooms in the larger cabins sleep 4-6, so there's the worry that people might feel weird about sharing. It's going to be tough, logistically. But I think we can handle it.


So there's the low-down on SS. I'm going to call Judy tomorrow and see what their schedule is like for next May, and get down to "brass tacks," as it were, with all the little details. But I/we think this is it! Very exciting! And we made it back to Oakland this afternoon in just a tad over 2 hours. So hopefully the drive won't annoy anyone. Hey, it's closer than Monterey or Carmel!

Friday, June 23, 2006

Lake County - it's the new Napa

Lake County's boutique surprise - Luxuriously updated hotel, new winery add luster to region

location, location, location

We're checking out Saratoga Springs this weekend as a possible location. From the website and the info we've gotten over email, seems good, but I don't want to get my hopes up too much... It's in Lake County, near Clear Lake. Not the most glamorous locale, I was hoping for Sonoma, but the price seems right (Sonoma and Napa were too pricey/fancy). If this doesn't work out, I'm thinking Russian River area (don't worry Denise, the weather is gorgeous in May/June, I promise no power outages due to rain!!).

the story behind the ring

I described in my Belize trip diary how James and I got engaged. He had intended on making me a temporary ring in Belize out of local grasses/plants, with a bit of string and candle wax. So ambitious! Well, that didn't work out at all, and after much suffering, he bought me this silver ring from a Rasta "street" vendor on Caye Caulker. I say "street," because we only saw two cars on the whole island, it's more like a path for golf carts and pedestrians. Very quaint. Actually, the first ring he got was too big, it was v-shaped, but very similar. We traded it for the wave-shaped ring the next day, which fit perfectly.


Apparently my fingers were a little puffy in Belize due to the humidity or whatever, so the ring is a little loose back home in California. But I've gotten used to it. We did go to a couple of jewelry stores looking for a "real" engagement ring back in April. While ring shopping, I decided that I don't like faceted stones. They just seem so gaudy, ostentatious. For me, that is - I just don't feel right wearing a big, flashy rock. Or even a small one! I had told Denise (who told James) months ago that I didn't want a diamond, because the deBeers monopoly is just EVIL! Seriously, EEEEE-vil! They created the whole "diamond is forever" mythology back in the 40s and 50s to keep people from passing on their diamonds, to keep the demand up. They have created the whole American engagement ring tradition from scratch, and have tried to spread it around the world, to varying degrees of success.


Anyway, enough ranting. James asked me again last weekend if I was still happy with my ring. I said I am. He said I am the bestest fiance ever. Maybe I'm just the cheapest, I don't know. Nah, I'm pretty awesome. And so is he. We are very, very happy.

the ring

what we know so far...

MARNIE BERRINGER & JAMES RIDDLE

MAY 2007


ABOUT MARNIE

Margaret Kaye Berringer was born in December 1974 in lovely Camden, NJ to Tom and Jean Berringer. Named after her two grandmothers, Margaret (Peg) Berringer and Catherine (Kaye) Watchous, Tom and Jean (also known as Regina and Jeanne [pronounced genie]) planned from the start to call her "Marnie." This plan went smoothly until Marnie started kindergarden and decided that she was "all grown up" and wanted to be called Margaret. She eventually regretted this, and upon starting college decided she was un-grown-up and reverted back to Marnie.


Marnie has an extensive family, as Jean is the eldest of 8 (seven girls and one boy) and Tom is the second of 5 (two girls and three boys). Marnie has someting like 30 first cousins. She has only one sibling, Denise, who is married to Greg Wood and has an adorable daughter, Amelie, who is 3 years old. Marnie's parents and the Woods live in Phoenix, while most of her extended family is in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Kansas and New York.


ABOUT JAMES

James is a "third." James Henry Riddle III, that is. He is the second of three children, and his older brother, believe it or not, is also named James. But James' parents, Jim and Fran, had originally decided not to do the "third" thing, and named their first son James Scott Riddle. But then Jim had a change of heart, so two years later, little Jimmy was born. Scott and James' sister Molly came along in 1980, ten years after Scott and eight after James.


James is from Atlanta, though his extended family is mostly in North & South Carolina. Both parents (now divorced) as well as Scott, his wife Renee, and their one-year-old son Zach live outside of Atlanta, while Molly lives in SF near her little-big-brother.


HOW WE MET

James and Marnie met on the internet. How cliche, right? Marnie's video production company had done a piece about the website Tickle.com, which provides many, many different kinds of tests to pass the time -- personality tests, IQ tests, pschological tests, etc. Marnie was intrigued, and went online to try out some of the tests. Meanwhile, James was sucked in by an IQ test, and also became a member of the website. Eventually both Marnie and James signed up for the "matchmaking" aspect of the site, and were quickly matched by the wizard behind the curtain. Actually, Marnie was the one-and-only person that James ever contacted via the website -- that says something about the success rate, now doesn't it?


WHEN WE GOT ENGAGED

March 29, 2006


HOW IT HAPPENED

See my Belize trip diary for the whole story.


ABOUT THE BIG DAY

Northern California, in May of 2007. Details yet to be decided on include: everything.